Not your average sex addict

What do people think of when they think of a stereotypical sex addict?

Perhaps it is a horney college-age guy who can’t get enough sex with lots of Spring Break girls.

Perhaps it’s a rich, powerful leader who feels entitled to conquer his female employees.

Perhaps it is a gay man who lives a life of hedonism with serial hookups.

Perhaps it is the rare, “nymphomaniac” woman that you might see in a gang-bang porn movie.

I did not fit into any of these stereotypes. I was a woman, not rich, not powerful, not college-age, not gay ( and not a man lol). I was married. I was a mother. I worked as a physician. I did not fit the stereotypes, yet, between the ages of 15 to 49, I lived a life as a secret sex addict.

My addiction affected my function in all aspects of my life such as relationships, work, parenting, and my health. I was distressed and suffering for several decades, but there was little information that I could find that was relevant to me. The books on Amazon, online blogs, Sex Addicts Anonymous, and therapists all seemed to specialize in a “different” kind of sex addict.

How was I going to get help? I could not relate to any of the available resources that I had come across.

I needed to resolve this. Somehow. I just didn’t know how…Until I found Coach Dana. I write about the steps to my recovery in my book, “My Secret Life as a Sex Addict. How I repaired the Damage.”